What Should A Guy Do When A Girl Is On Her Period?

What Should A Guy Do When A Girl Is On Her Period
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  • Be patient! Don’t blame her irritability on her period, but try to understand where she’s coming from.
  • Bring her the food she craves.
  • Be attentive.
  • Give her a massage.
  • Give her space.

Should a man sleep with a woman on her period?

Abstract – According to the Old Testament (Provisions for clean and unclean of the Mosaic Law), a woman during menstruation or a man who has sexual relations with a menstruating woman are perceived as “unclean”. When seven days pass after the first day of menstruation, the woman is regarded as “clean” and sexual contact is permitted.

  • The character of these Provisions, according to the New Testament and Fathers of the Christian Church, was mainly pedagogical and aimed at helping the Israelites to transcend from physical purity to purification of the soul and from the worship of stereotypes to spiritual worship.
  • Moreover, sexual contact that occurred during menstruation was considered as prostitution.

From a modern medical point of view, sexual intercourse during menstruation is normal and not perversion, but is associated, although remote, with undesirable pregnancy, the development of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and possible endometriosis, which affects, inter alia, the health of the reproductive tract.

These Provisions were essentially hygiene rules imposed by the social and cultural circumstances of that time and were invested with religious authority. The main aims of the Lawmaker were to promote the Israelites’ health, prevent them from contracting STDs, and increase their fertility and birth of healthy offspring.

The term “unclean” for each menstruating woman served this aim. Keywords: menstruation, Old Testament, sexual intercourse, hygiene, medicine, Mosaic Law.

Is it bad to tell a guy you’re on your period?

How to talk about your period with male friends – It’s not inappropriate to talk to your male friends about menstruation and doing so will help lift the stigma around menstruation, make men more knowledgeable, and potentially stop negative views about the opposite sex (Allen, Kaestle, & Goldberg, 2010).

Is a period in a text rude?

Situational switches – But of all the things to feel when seeing a period at the end of a text message—why insincerity? The answer could have something to do with a term used by linguist John J. Gumperz: “situational code-switching,” which is when we change how we talk depending on where we are, who we’re talking to or how we’re communicating.

  1. A common example is the way we talk in a job interview versus at a bar with friends.
  2. Typically, a speaker will use much more formal language in an interview than when hanging out with peers.
  3. If you talked to your friends the same way you talked during a job interview, it would probably give a stilted, distant feeling to the conversation.

Scholars originally investigated situational code-switching in spoken language because spoken language was used in both casual and formal settings. In the past, written language was almost always tinged with a level of formality because it was associated with permanence in books and written documents.

Should I leave my girlfriend alone when she on her period?

Download Article Learn to care for your girlfriend with empathy and love Download Article A woman’s mood can be heavily influenced by hormonal fluctuations in her monthly cycle, especially before menstruation. She might feel happy at one moment, and within a few minutes she could be in tears. This can be frustrating for you as she might get upset with you even when you feel that you have done nothing wrong, but with the right approach, you can make work to make peace for her and for you.

  1. 1 Reduce social activities. Feeling bloated and sore usually doesn’t translate to wanting to be social. Check with her before confirming nights out that involve her or bringing your buddies back home with you. Be particularly aware of events that require her to dress up or that involve physical activity.
    • For instance, you might not want to promise that you and her will go swimming with your friends if you know her period is coming. Check in with her first.
  2. 2 Take on some of her chores. If she typically washes the dishes or cooks dinner, take over this role both while she is PMSing and when she is not. She will appreciate you doing more around the house and will feel less stressed in general.
    • You can either ask her what she needs help with or just get right in there and do the work. Notice what needs to be cleaned or dealt with and do it without even having to ask.


  3. 3 Accommodate any diet changes. Though your girlfriend may typically be a health nut, when she is premenstrual, she might scarf down an entire pizza. Avoid making comments regarding her changes in diet if there are any. If she complains that her clothes are feeling tight, offer to go on a walk with her instead or tell her she looks nice.
    • If you are trying to deal with her PMS and help her with her diet simultaneously, suggest healthy options. For instance, if she wants a pizza, suggest that you make one together rather than ordering out.
  4. 4 Do something relaxing for her. When your girlfriend is premenstrual, she might be feeling a lot more emotional or agitated than normal. Help relax her by running her a nice hot bath, massage her shoulders, or even meditating with her. Doing so will help put her at ease.
  5. 5 Help her sleep. Sleep can drastically help a woman who is dealing with PMS. Avoid disrupting your girlfriend’s sleep by playing the television loudly or by keeping her up late at night. Instead, engage in activities that will help soothe her to sleep like lighting a lavender candle or making her some hot tea.
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  1. 1 Keep track of when she will be pre-menstrual. Mark your calendar every month noting the time that she will be PMSing, but keep it in a place where she will not see it. Knowing that she’s pre-menstrual may help you to be more patient with her. There are several apps available on the iPhone and Android phones to help you track her cycle. Keep in mind, however, that many women have irregular cycles.
  2. 2 Avoid blaming her bad mood on her period. Even if you know she’s about to be on her period or see the same symptoms every month, keep that observation to yourself. Many women, especially when in a bad mood, will take offense to your assumption that the reason she’s upset is because it’s “that time of the month”.
    • Instead of saying something like “Wow, you must be PMSing” say “It seems like you’re not in the best mood right now, do you want me to get you something to eat or run you a bath?”
  3. 3 Avoid negative surprises. If you already know she might be a bit moody, don’t bring up any news or surprises that could potentially be upsetting to her if the news can wait. Wait for a time when she can give it her full attention in a better frame of mind.
    • For instance, if an ex reached out to you, you might choose to wait a few days to let her know.
    • Some things you will need to tell her immediately though, like if you lost your job or if you were dishonest with her about something.
  4. 4 Diffuse tricky or upsetting questions. Questions like “Does this make me look fat,” can be tricky at the best of times in a relationship, but can be particularly sensitive if she’s premenstrual. Try to avoid engaging in these types of discussions when you know this is the case or to instead reaffirm her in any way that you can. This positivity can help improve her mood overall.
    • For instance, if she asks if she looks fat you can say “No, I think you look great today.”
    • If she tries to pick a fight with you over something that is small, like you missing a spot when washing dishes you can say “Sorry, honey. Let me get that. Let’s watch a movie in a few.”
  5. 5 Let her choose. When your girlfriend is not feeling well, avoid engaging in power struggles over what you will watch and do. During these few days, don’t put up a fight over what movies, TV shows, foods, or activities you do. Just spend time with her doing what she wants.
    • If, however, there is a special event or circumstance, then she will need to understand. For instance, if your favorite team is playing in the finals, then you should still watch the game. Promise her that you can watch what she wants before or after.
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  1. 1 Be patient. Dealing with anybody on a short fuse can be trying. If she snaps at you, or does something to get under your skin, don’t lose your temper and fight back. It will just make things worse. Instead, take a few deep breaths, walk away from the situation for a moment, and return when you can be calm with her.
    • Cut her some slack during this time but still maintain your boundaries. Even if she is not feeling great, she should not be yelling or cursing at you.
  2. 2 Don’t take it personally. During this time, her emotions might get the best of her and your best defense against this is to remain level-headed and calm. Rather than lashing out at her, even when you feel that she is being illogical, simply say “Ok, I understand, let’s talk about this later.”
  3. 3 Exercise compassion. Think about a time when physical changes made you cranky. Was there ever an instance when you weren’t getting enough sleep, and you became rather abrasive as a result? Put yourself in her shoes. Not only might she be experiencing bothersome physical symptoms, but her hormones are also in flux, affecting her emotionally.
    • Use these reflections as a way to develop more compassion for her.
  4. 4 Ask her what she needs. In addition, while your girlfriend is PMSing, check in and see what she needs from you. Though it is great to take initiative and do some things on your own, there may be some things that she needs that you hadn’t considered. She might need you to run some errands for her or perhaps she just wants to be held. Whatever her needs, do your best to fulfill them.
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  • Question What should I do when she wants to be alone? Let her know that you will be there when she needs you, and then give her space. She will get in touch when she’s feeling better.
  • Question I try compassion methods all the time, but the only method that really works is a significant amount of abuse of any form from my side. I do not want to hurt her every month. Why does she require that? What exactly do you mean by ‘works’? Nothing positive can come out of abuse, and no one ‘requires’ abuse. If you’re abusing her every month, she should have left you a long time ago. Your job in a relationship is not to control the other person or make them compliant or submissive to you. It’s to care for and be kind and supportive to them. If your girlfriend is hard to be around during these times, and doesn’t respond positively to kindness, then it’s best to just give her space and leave her alone for a while. Obviously, she shouldn’t mistreat you just because she’s not feeling well, either, and you have the right to tell her that’s not okay and to distance yourself from her if she keeps doing it – or even end the relationship if you two can’t find a way to live in peace. But there’s no excuse for abuse.
  • Question Is it bad if I try to avoid going home when she has PMS? Instead of avoiding her, try to make her feel better by getting her a small gift or doing a kind favor for her.

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  • Sometimes just a simple “I love you” at the right time can cure a bad emotion when PMS emotion wave strikes. Simple hugs and kisses work well, too.
  • Many women find some relief from symptoms in over the counter medications intended for relief from premenstrual symptoms. It can be a big win for a partner to be familiar with these products, so try to have them on hand or be willing to go get them.

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  • Don’t act like your girlfriend’s emotions aren’t real. They are completely real emotions. They are just intensified by her hormones.
  • Don’t be an enabler. People have emotional states, but they retain the ability to make decisions. Do not confuse bipolar or borderline personality disorder issues with PMS. If your girlfriend consistently treats you poorly, it is your responsibility to walk away and find someone who will treat you decently.
  • Don’t try to blame your relationship issues on your girlfriend’s period. Dig deeper to find the real core of your problems.

Advertisement Article Summary X When your girlfriend is in her premenstrual stage, things can get a little stressful for both of you, but try to help her relax and be compassionate until she feels better. She’s probably not going to feel like doing anything strenuous, so help her out with any chores or errands that need doing.

  • Help her relax by offering to run her a bath, give her a massage, or make her some herbal tea.
  • If she wants to rest, entertain yourself while she recovers.
  • If in doubt, ask her what she needs.
  • Since pre-menstruation affects her hormones, be patient and give her some extra leeway if she’s moody or blunt with you.

However, never blame her mood on her period, since you don’t want to dismiss her feelings. For more tips, including how to keep track of your girlfriend’s cycles, read on! Did this summary help you? Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 804,535 times.

Can you touch a girl on her period?

Designing with and for Bodily Fluids – Our lasting sense from the data is that there is power in touching the body for oneself—both in terms of the emancipation and appreciation that can be achieved by breaking this taboo, but also in terms of the knowledge about the self which is possible to develop as a result of this touching.

Here such knowledge extends from general health, supporting or reducing the chance of becoming pregnant, and noticing symptoms of diseases or disorders. It would be tempting for menstrual technologies to sanitize this touching, as commercial products such as Looncup and my.Flow already work towards—measuring and analyzing the menstrual fluids for their users.

However, based on our data, this would sidestep the benefits of touching. Instead, we argue that technology’s place here is to invite, and to potentially mediate this touch, not to be the “gatekeeper” to knowledge about the body. We can draw from existing exemplars in recent literature to imagine what such interactions might look like.

  • For example, while designed as a provocation around human-fungi relationships, the Hand-Substrate Interface embodies some of the qualities we envisage in future menstrual technologies that promote touch of the body.
  • Its design intends to promote an “art of noticing” that allows the wearer, through mediated touch, to learn more about the substrates within which mushrooms are growing, developing an understanding of how different levels of moisture support fungal growth.

It is not a great leap to imagine similar technologies that allow mediated touch of the menstruating body, enabling the wearer to piece together the viscosity, volume, and color of bodily discharge in their menstrual cycle. What is promising about such approaches is the potential to generate knowledge about particular environmental conditions (whether in the forest or in the body) that might also become accessible when not wearing such a device.

Designing with and for interactions with bodily fluids and menstrual blood requires careful ethical management to determine how to incorporate design explorations with such materials not only in the homes of participants, but also in other potential research environments. Designing for touching menstrual blood, cervical mucus and saliva of one’s own body is not dangerous or toxic, and does not add any risks aside from the ones people who menstruate already encounter with their cycles every month.

People are becoming more and more in contact with their blood and mucus when using menstrual hygiene products, in part due to the increase of menstrual cup usage, especially in a European context, In this work, we have gone a step further than day to day encounters and asked participants to notice and pay attention to these fluids that are a normal part of the discharge of their bodies.

  1. This opens up questions about treatment, storage, and disposal which must be attended to by both the researchers and the participants.
  2. With at least one participant, our study highlighted the stigma that can be associated with menstrual blood and the menstruating body.
  3. The participant’s partner did not want to see the menstrual blood or be near collected samples.

Curious Cycles—in asking her to collect, store and observe her fluids—supported the participant in confronting her partner on this matter, enabling her to directly challenge this stigma. Our designs provided the opportunity to touch and collect, to perceive this discharge as precious, and something which should be looked at and might be considered as beautiful.

Vitally, Curious Cycles provided a place within the home for these discharges, rather than treating them as something that should be immediately thrown away. Based on our data, we believe that future menstrual technologies should help to directly challenge the stigma and misunderstanding of, in particular, menstrual blood.

Despite these fluids being non-toxic and not dangerous, they are bodily fluids and as such, must be treated with care. Researchers must consider that menstrual blood contains venous blood, which may carry blood-borne infections and diseases, including sexually transmitted ones.

  1. Thus, interaction design needs to develop processes and practices which enable us to experiment and design with these materials safely.
  2. To achieve this, we should take inspiration from emerging practices such as who examine how to transition an HCI studio into a BSL-1 (biosafety level 1) facility using low-cost tools, to develop DIY bio protocols.

Similarly, we can be informed by current DIY approaches to gynecology, such as and seek to design methods and tools that resist institutionalized views of menstruation, allowing the conversations and knowledge production about menstrual cycles to happen also in the home.

Can my boyfriend finish in me on my period?

What Should A Guy Do When A Girl Is On Her Period Sperm can survive in a woman’s body for some time. Sperm can survive in a woman’s reproductive system for up to 5 days whether the woman is menstruating or not. Thus, even if a woman has sex during her period, sperm from ejaculation may remain inside her reproductive system and may fertilize the egg if ovulation occurs.

Can I go down on my GF on her period?

Can I Have Oral Sex on My Period? – Having oral sex during your period is safe. If you’re worried about leakage, use a menstrual cup, contraceptive sponge, or tampon. If you don’t want to put anything in your vagina, you can also use a dental dam —a square piece of latex that can be purchased or made by cutting a condom. Dental dams also help prevent STIs.

How does a girl feel on her period?

What Is PMS? – PMS (premenstrual syndrome) is when a girl has emotional and physical symptoms that happen before or during her period. These symptoms can include moodiness, sadness, anxiety, bloating, and acne. The symptoms go away after the first few days of a period.

What do guys think about girls periods?

They’re Thankful They Don’t Have To Deal With It – A lot of guys are just thankful that they’re not the ones that have to experience menstruation every month. Although it can make them uncomfortable and they don’t always know how to react to talking about it, they’re understanding that it can be a sucky thing to go through.

Should I let my boyfriend know I’m on my period?

Talking to Your Partner About Your Period | 3 Helpful Tips By Nicole MitchellWednesday, Feb 14, 2018 Talking about your period can feel embarrassing. But if you’re in a relationship, it can be a much needed conversation. Here’s how to tell your partner all about your period — from planning the convo to talking about PMS.

Discussing that time of the month with your partner might seem like the perfect recipe for awkwardness, but with a bit of courage it can be as easy as 1-2-3. Something about periods can really scare people who’ve never had one. It’s a tricky subject, and pop culture—in which (most) depictions are wildly exaggerated—might have been their only source of information.

This can be a problem if you’re dating someone who doesn’t know what a period feels like or how to act around someone who’s currently They may have even been advised to “stay away” when it’s that time of the month. The truth is your whole cycle (and not just your period) can have an effect on your physical and emotional well-being, and it’s important that you talk about it with your significant other.

Approach the subject naturally. Do it in a casual environment so it doesn’t feel like a “big conversation.” Maybe mention you’re crampy or that you have a period headache and see where it takes you. Keep in mind that if you’re comfortable, they will be more comfortable too.

Remember, there’s no shame in talking about your period or the changes in your body! It’s a natural and healthy process and getting it monthly(ish) means your body is doing its job. Plus, talking about your period openly with your partner is a significant first step to get into other important discussions, like or sex.

Explain what it feels like and why people experience periods. (Still learning? ) Everyone experiences periods differently, so this could be helpful to talk about—even with your menstruating pals. When talking about this, you have to understand your body and the reasons it behaves like it does. Before ovulation, when your estrogen and testosterone reach their highest levels, you’ll probably feel sexy, energetic, focused, and generally great. “Being hormonal” is not necessarily a bad thing!

On the other hand, your premenstrual week might come with mood swings, physical pain and discomfort, and an overall feeling of “blah” caused by super low estrogen, progesterone and other hormone fluctuations around your period that can make your emotions run wild. Explaining this will make it easier for your partner to prepare with lots of patience, hugs, and comfort food—

If your partner has questions, answer them. You don’t have to be super detailed, especially at the beginning, but let them know you’re willing to clarify any concerns they might have. In most cases, your experience will be more important than the biological tidbits, so this is a great chance to help them understand what you go through and how your period affects you.

Though the thought of bringing up your period might sound daunting at first, the benefits of this particular conversation absolutely outweigh any weirdness. Kinda makes you wish you’d talked about it sooner, huh? Still unsure about broaching the subject with someone you care about? Try sending them a copy of our as a basis for learning and discussion.

Should I cancel a date if I have my period?

– The triangle icon that indicates to play 1. “For me, it depends on how long I’ve been seeing a person, because that dictates my willingness to leave my home and how I can personalize the date to cater to my needs. I’m currently in a long-term relationship and also really value quality time, so I likely would not cancel a date unless I actually couldn’t get out of bed (which has happened!).

Rather, I’d pack my heating pad and truck it over to his house for a less active date. If this were at the start of our relationship, however, I definitely would cancel since I’d need to be more active and involved in terms of conversation, going out to eat, etc.” — Kamara, 25 2. “I make a conscious effort to not schedule or go on dates with my fiancé on my period or during the week leading up to it.

Instead, I use this time to rest and reflect. I try to plan dates and social outings for the two weeks after my period ends. This is when I have the most energy and interest in socializing. I’m at my best when I’m aware of the shifts in energy and mood that take place during the phases of the menstrual cycle and align my life to it.” — Bailey, 30 3. “I will avoid scheduling a date when I know I’m going to be on my period. I track my cycle using my phone. Before I schedule a date, I will check to make sure I won’t be on my period at that time. If it comes unexpectedly and the date is already scheduled, I won’t cancel the date,

I will let him know, however, after the date and before the intimacy begins.” — LaChon, 32 4. “I have found that right before my period, my skin flares up and gets pretty bad. So I don’t tend to even think about hanging out with anyone or going on a date then. But the day before and during my period, my skin tends to completely clear up and I feel much more confident about spending time with people or going on a date.” — Stacy, 28 5.

“I would cancel a date if I had my period. Not only do I feel bloated, tired, drained, and have horrible cramps, but I also am personally not a fan of period sex. I feel like I would just spend the whole date feeling uncomfortable and would much rather just snuggle with my dogs in sweats watching Netflix and reschedule the date for another time when I feel better and more confident that I’ll have good sex.

I usually say I’m really not feeling well. If I say I’m canceling because I’m on my period, some guys make it all about themselves and are like, ‘Oh, I don’t care’ or ‘Oh, I wasn’t even considering that.’ But it’s not about them or me pleasing them, it’s just about me feeling confident and comfortable,” — Morgan*, 26 This content is imported from poll.

You may be able to find the same content in another format, or you may be able to find more information, at their web site.6. “I would probably say that I’m not feeling well and ask to reschedule (obviously, I would rather be alone in my yoga pants). But I’m all for people who would be more honest.

Men shouldn’t get to be scared of periods. Personally, I’m a nonconfrontational person, so I’d just say I’m sick, but in an ideal world, I would say, ‘My bed, alone, sounds way better than you right now,'” — Rachel*, 29 7. “I cancel Bumble meetups on the reg, but I always use work as an excuse. Like, ‘OMG, don’t hate me, but can we rain check? I just got this huge assignment at work/was invited to a work event last minute.’ It’s usually because I just want to go home and drink wine in pajamas watching Netflix.

But yeah, I’d totally use it if my period was being a drag, It’s just not something that makes going on a date desirable.” — Ashlee*, 31 8. “It depends on how I’m feeling. If I do cancel, I normally just say I’m having a bad day or not in a good mood. It’s too much trouble to say I have my period, because guys are weird about it and then either try to convince you they don’t care or get really awkward about it. 9, ” If it’s the first date with a person, I would a hundred percent cancel, If it’s, like, the second or third date, I’ll go. But if I don’t, I’ll make something up, like my dog is having diarrhea, or just ghost. If the dude’s hot and I’m super attracted to him, I’m never above sucking dick.plus, that way, they won’t ask me for sex because I’m not about period sex.” — Toni*, 26 10.

  • I’m really anal about keeping tabs on when my period comes, and it’s very consistent, so I wouldn’t schedule a date on my period.
  • But I see no problem with canceling—it’s like a bodily condition and it takes a real physical toll to get through it,
  • I’ve tried period sex and it’s horrible—especially with white sheets, oh my god.” — Natalie*, 37 11.

“I track my period and absolutely schedule business meetings, girls’ nights, and life in general around my period. I get excruciating cramps on day one of my period and am hunched over like a 90-year-old woman with agony written all over my face. I’m almost immobile and all I want is my bed.

Answers have been lightly edited for clarity. *Name has been changed.

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What if someone texts a period?

What does A, (Period) Mean in Texting? – A period (.) in texting signifies the end of a sentence, as usual. However, you are probably here wondering what a period by itself means. When someone sends you a message containing only a, (period), it usually means that they acknowledge what you said, or even agree with you.

Should you put a period after text?

Why You Should Leave the Period Off Your Next Text Message – Of course, these findings do not suggest that people are using periods intentionally to make the meaning of their messages less sincere. But, regardless of intent, receivers of such messages are interpreting them that way.

Consider that during an in-person conversation, a similar lack of sincerity might be communicated by not looking up from a task or other object of focus while responding to a question. Such behavior signals a lack of interest in or engagement with the person asking the question. In the context of texting, the use of a period has taken on a similar meaning.

So, if you want to ensure that your messages are received and understood with the level of sincerity you intend, leave the period off the final sentence. You might even consider upping the sincerity ante with an exclamation point. Grammar experts are likely to disagree with this recommendation, but it’s us social scientists who are more adept at understanding the shifting dynamics of interaction and communication.

How can I help my girlfriend with period cramps?

Tackling Menstrual Cramps – It’s likely your daughter will also experience menstrual cramps before or during her period. They can vary in severity and can often feel like a sharp, stabbing pain that might make her double over, or a nagging pain that spreads through her belly and lower back.

Encourage her to stay active. Regular exercise and stretching will help ease her cramps Suggest that she lie down and gently rub her abdomen to help relax the muscles Ask her doctor for a recommendation of herbal remedies or medicines that may relieve symptoms Draw her up a warm bath and sprinkle a few drops of lavender, clary sage or rose aromatherapy oils into the water Give her a hot water bottle or heating pad she can place on her lower abdomen or back


The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), Pamphlet 57 PMS The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), Brochure 4: Dysmenorrhea

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