informal : to have an angry or unpleasant attitude or way of behaving caused by a belief that one has been treated unfairly in the past He has had a chip on his shoulder ever since he didn’t get the promotion he was expecting.
- 1 Is it okay to have a chip on your shoulder?
- 2 How do I know if I have a chip on my shoulder?
- 3 Can a bone chip heal on its own?
Is it okay to have a chip on your shoulder?
Having a chip on your shoulder is good, if it’s the right type of chip I once heard of a vice-chancellor who said each of his staff seemed to have a chip on their shoulder. He said the staff were uncomfortable because they didn’t work at Oxford or Cambridge, and felt a little inferior. After thinking about this situation, he decided he would do everything in his power – to keep the chips there! It was core to motivation – academics tried harder and harder to show they were just as good as those in the more established universities.
- Perverse as this sounds, feelings of inadequacy, now often called imposter syndrome, or old fashioned desires to prove oneself, or to just belong, are powerful motivators that can provide meaning for many people.
- While some individuals worry that only they have these deep feelings of inadequacy, of forever having to try harder to just keep up with expectations, it seems quite likely that actually, many if not most people, even those who are succeeding, probably feel the same way.
In fact, some people are successful, primarily because they feel unsuccessful, and are thus internally driven to try harder and harder and harder. Paradoxically, it’s a fair bet that successful people have more feelings of inadequacy than others. This drive, this purpose, this – dare I say it – ambition, is a great thing provided it pushes people to strive to be better rather than pushing them to snipe and try to drag others down.
I guess either can happen but, in general, the trend towards – positivity – (sometimes to excess) in most places I’ve worked, means that, if sniping occurs, it doesn’t reach my ears very often. During my career I’ve observed how drive and this type of naked ambition is regarded differently in different countries.
In Australia it is hidden, since Australians don’t like tall poppies, who big note their achievements or even their prospects. Australian academics work with hard determination, but they don’t like to show it. Ambition, that combination of confidence and energy is often hidden.
In the US, drive, ambition and success are celebrated. There is a remarkable commitment to productivity – I recall a colleague referring to someone who had won the Nobel prize five years earlier, and saying – sure but what have they done since? He needs to deliver today! The pressure is always on in some of the top US labs! In the UK on the other hand I remember meeting a very few disarmingly smart and witty people who always passed the port the right way, and had a reputation for exceptional cleverness, but didn’t always produce work in the quantities that were expected.
This had some advantages because it put quality above quantity but gradually it may be changing. These days academic bean counters (and I’m one sometimes) relentlessly weigh everyone daily to reassure themselves about productivity. Having a chip on your shoulder is not only good for motivating you, and pushing you to take risks, and put in the hard yards, it also prevents people from becoming smug, arrogant or complacent.
It’s not often said but I recall the word ‘arrogant’ being used a lot when I was younger (perhaps it was used about me I guess!). These days it seems much rarer. It is a great sin to be arrogant and a terrible thing to be perceived as arrogant – unless of course you have the withering charm of Paul Keating, in which case you can get away with it.
Churchill also seemed to carry arrogance well. I’m not sure why (or even if) arrogance has declined but I think it has. Perhaps the constant scrutiny by bean counters and by global social media, means that it is just so much harder to pass oneself off as a perfect fish in a small pond, or to strut around like a smug local hero.
- We all know that somewhere someone is outperforming us, and these days, with google scholar and such, it is pretty easy for anyone to find out who! I think this ubiquitous scrutiny undermines everyone, it converts the arrogant into the humble and can drive the already humble to insecurity.
- Provided that insecurity is only mild and just pushes people to strive harder – imbuing purpose and allowing people to derive satisfaction from their efforts – then that’s OK.
If not, it can be the beginning of a mental health pandemic. My kids tell me that I should not blame social media and the internet for everything, or bang on about scrutiny, universal approval ratings and social media. Rather I should learn to live in the new world and master the data that threatens to put a chip on each of our shoulders.
What does chip on shoulder mean urban?
How many people have heard or been told the following statements “she’s got a chip on her shoulder, She’s way too defensive” or “Wow, he just won’t let go of that grudge, he’s must have a chip on his shoulder about something” PART I: Some of the earliest mentions of the phrase “Chip on your shoulder” date back to the 19th century American practice of preparing for a fight by carrying a chip of wood on one’s shoulder, daring others to knock it off.
Can you imagine what those fights must have been like?! Back then, when a person disagreed strongly with someone over a personal belief, they would place a chip of wood on their shoulder and dare the other to knock it off. Once the other person did, this signaled the beginning of the fight and “ding, ding, ding” punches were thrown! The “chip” is a signal that you are ready for battle, ready to face any opponent for what you believe in.
We can see this today in leaders who speak up and act out, they carry a chip for a cause! Emma Gonzalez, student at Parkland HS. She said, “We are going to be the kids you read about in textbooks. Not because we’re going to be another statistic about mass shooting in America, but because, just as David said, we are going to be the last mass shooting. Tarana Burke, founder of the #MeToo movement who is driven by the gaps, the areas where marginalized people exist, where the least resources are available for them. Her chip is exposing institutional behaviors and structures that obstruct others from an equal vantage point. Or Ruth Bader Ginsberg, the 2nd female judge appointed to the Supreme Court whose trailblazing career focused on women’s rights. Most notably when she voted for acceptance of female cadets to Virginia Military Institute, a traditionally all-male establishment.
A Chip can be for a cause, a signal you are ready for battle? Can we see your chips?How are you training for the battle? What “equipment” are you using? As you step onto the battlefield of life; what are you declaring? What’s your battle call? PART II: An alternative history of the phrase dates back to the 18th century British Royal Dockyards.
Where a ruling stated that “Shipwrights are to be allowed to bring chips on their shoulders near the dock gates, to be inspected by officers.” These chips were surplus timber that were taken home for use as firewood or building material and was a substantial perk of the job.
This was later amended that only chips that can be carried under one arm were allowed to be removed from the dockyard. I’m sure you can imagine ship builders loading both shoulders up with “surplus” wood to take home. For the workers on the dockyards, the “chip” was a privilege earned as a result of their work position or role.
I’m sure you all see this in the way that senior leaders carry themselves; it can sometimes look like a lot of confidence, pride, or a huge ego. Speaking of chips that represent a status; Forbes published that Kylie Jenner was the youngest self-made billionaire at age 21.
- One could argue that she had a few privilege chips that helped propel her to this status.
- As we continue down the “chip on your shoulder” journey, for any valuable colloquialism definition; we must go to Urban Dictionary.
- Urban Dictionary defines “chip on your shoulder” as.1- an idiom used to say that someone has a deeply held feeling or conviction about something.2- referring to someone who has a self-righteous feeling of inferiority or a grudge.
Always bringing up how they are or were disadvantaged in some way.3- someone who has something to prove. 4- a time when someone refuses to do what they are told because the person in charge is incompetent, Urban Dictionary shares this, “A horse was refusing to do what it was told, so a veterinarian was called in. The veterinarian examined the horse and noticed a chip of flesh was removed from the front shoulder of the animals leg ( chip on his shoulder ).
As it turned out when the owner was drunk he walked the horse into the side of the barn door. Now the horse refuses to obey.” 5- A description given to someone (male or female), who has a sense of superiority ( valid or not) due to either past successes or a personal belief that they are “better” than those around then.
A chip can be the result of one’s position, the earned advantage. PART III: Carli Lloyd, National Soccer team, once described as the weirdest world class professional athlete ever. Cut from the US Soccer U-21 program, Lloyd’s career is spackled with painful “chips” which culminated in arguably the best championship performances ever and being named 2015 FIFA World Cup Player of the Year.
The 2016 Clemson Tiger football team, undefeated and ranked #1 in the country, said they felt disrespected, like the underdog. In fact the players and coaches often commented that “no one believed in them.” They used those chips to win the National Title. Michael Jordan, a fellow Tarheel who also did some other great things.
was the master at using his naysayers to fuel his performance and one could argue that he wouldn’t be the GOAT without those shoulder chips. I mentioned how one of the most common understandings of having a chip on one’s shoulder is seen as a person who holds a grudge or some type of grievance.
Until recently, having a chip on your shoulder was generally seen as a negative attribute. Which is why I believe many successful people keep their chips a secret until they achieve such success that warrants someone asking “To what do you attribute your success?” At such point, it is revealed that there was a “chip”; a situation, a person, a set back, an occurrence that motivated that individual and it led to a successful (you fill in the blank).
Some argue that having a chip on your shoulder is essential for success. It seems as if the drive to succeed is mostly the result of a setback. The setback becomes the “chip”; the motivator, used to fuel a person’s fire. So, the essential question becomes How do you respond to setbacks? Do they become the kerosene to the bonfire of your career? Or Do you focus on why they didn’t want you? Why the other people weren’t as good as you? Or do you use it drive you to greatness? Sometimes chips are hidden, chips can help you turn setbacks into success.
- PART IV: My Chips I want to share my “chips” with you and the reasons why I choose to keep them.
- But first, let me paint a picture for you.
- In 2012, I was a recent Master’s Graduate; on my third promotion in three years; participating in some high profile national cohort programs and expanding my professional network/impact beyond my current community.
I was taking charge of my career development, researching national available resources like mentoring & emerging leader experiences. I thought I was just using the means available to me. I mean, they were easily found online and I used my own money to pay for it.
- That’s what I thought until the day I had my annual review with my supervisor who told me that “it was radical” what I was doing for myself.
- She went on to say that I moved up “very quickly” and that “normally” your supervisor advises you on a leadership development path.
- It was the first time that I was shunned for wanting to learn and grow.
This was a side of the organization that I just couldn’t believe was real I mean we are about helping individuals and families thrive. About a year later, my position was “eliminated” and I was out of a job with the organization that I thought was a perfect fit for me and my talents.
The place where I felt most at home professionally. As I sat at home, comforting everyone who was devastated at my removal, I took stock of what impact I desired to have in my life. I contemplated taking a different journey but ultimately took an interview for a role in a different state. Before going into the interview, I said to myself, ‘I’m going to be me and if they like me and offer me the job then I’ll take it but I won’t show up how I think they want me to be.’ With my authentic self, I got that job and I made a promise to always be a leader who supports the development of others.
I vowed to be a leader that will nurture others, supporting them in their growth. That “chip” of being told I was radical, that I should wait my turn, that I didn’t deserve what I was gaining, is a driving force behind my leadership to date. I NEVER want anyone to feel afraid to pursue opportunities that interest them.
I NEVER want anyone to feel like they can’t learn outside of what’s given/known to them. In the moment, I didn’t realize how pivotal those words would be to form the leader that I am today. Michael Jordan didn’t reveal how he was cut from the varsity basketball team at Laney HS in Wilmington, NC until he was a Hall of Famer.
I believe he internalized that chip and it fueled him to be the Greatest Of All Time. I am in no ways the Michael Jordan of The Y but I am finally confident enough in my leadership to reveal my chip to you all today. Choose to keep the chip, they become pivotal moments.
My Chips have value. Like a Poker chip, it’s an extrinsic motivation to succeed and win. In Las Vegas, there are 13 chips with varying dollar amounts ranging from $1 to $5K. Harvard Business Review says that Inspiration is a main motivator of employees to do things well. The Y’s Cause is that inspiration to me; it’s our commitment to strengthen community, whatever community that is and in whatever country; that is a valuable reminder of the work I do day by day. How many chips do you have and what are the value of those chips? What inspires you to be at your best?
How do I know if I have a chip on my shoulder?
#newdaynewchapter is a Blog narrative started on March 1, 2021 co-founded by Kishore Shintre & Sonia Bedi, to write a new chapter everyday for making “Life” and not just making a “living” – Published May 24, 2021 Someone tells “you’ve got a chip on your shoulder”.
- This is nothing but proactive passive aggression.
- Which means they are resentful about something and feel that they have been treated badly.
- You try to help someone to come up in life giving your shoulder to support them and you find that they have climbed on your head slowly and went onto a top leaving you down suffering.
The expression in the form ‘the chip is on my shoulder’ could be found in the Poem ‘To a Bully’ by Eugene Field Sr. (September 2, 1850 – November 4, 1895), an American writer, best known for his children’s poetry and humorous essays and was known as the “poet of childhood” in the collection his works ‘Echoes from Sabine Farm’ To A Bully You, blatant coward that you are, Upon the helpless vent your spite.
Suppose you ply your trade on me; Come, monkey with this bard, and see How I’ll repay your bark with bite! Ay, snarl just once at me, you brute! And I shall hound you far and wide, As fiercely as through drifted snow The shepherd dog pursues what foe Skulks on the Spartan mountain-side. The chip is on my shoulder-see? But touch it and I’ll raise your fur; I’m full of business, so beware! For, though I’m loaded up for bear, I’m quite as like to kill a cur! There’s no one size fits all approach but here’s some warning signs.
There are various phrases which should sound the same. Narcissism – If the person has a larger than life view of their own accomplishments this is not good. Referring to themselves in the third person – When someone says something like “This is the reason you should try this” and their name is not taken.
- This means the person thinks of circumstances and how it must be a part of their image.
- Belittling – If they belittle others behind their back they are belittling you.
- Taking credit for other peoples work – If they take credit for other peoples work it means they can’t imagine how things can get done without them.
Ignoring – Completely ignoring you or anyone they find as competition is another sign. Comparing – If they are always comparing their accomplishments and how much others fail. Friendly to only people that can benefit them – Only being nice to management is another sign for this one.
- Never compliments – If they never compliment anyone on their team it shows their jealously.
- Being too quiet – If they never start small talk with people about how they are doing, without bringing the conversation back to themselves, this is also a narcissistic trait to watch out for.
- How great they are – If someone spends a lot of time talking about how great they are, or how they’re the best at something, be weary.
These are all signs to look out for. Be careful! These guys are multiplying and with today’s social media, being rewarded for their narcissistic traits. Saying someone has a chip on their shoulder is a short metaphorical expression that means that you are talking about a person who is a bully, aggressive, antagonist, always ready for a fight and is deliberately very very easily offended.
- The expression usually indicates that these traits are a permanent part of the persons personality and always there.
- If you are told that someone “has a chip on their shoulder” – its best to avoid dealing with that person.
- The metaphorical “chip” stands for “the very slightest excuse” that the bully will use to be offended.
Being offended is the Bully’s justification for hurting you. If you have ever seen the movie Good Fellows then you have seen a perfect example of someone with a chip on his shoulder – the character, Tommy De Vito played by Joe Pesci. Cheers!
How long does a chip shoulder take to heal?
Most fractures heal without any problems in six to twelve weeks. However, it may take six to twelve months for your symptoms to settle completely – these can include pain or discomfort, stiffness, decreased strength, swelling and loss of muscle bulk.
When a man has a chip on his shoulder?
To seem angry all the time because you think you have been treated unfairly or feel you are not as good as other people : He has a chip on his shoulder about not having been to college.
What does chip on the shoulder mean reddit?
Ago. Additional comment actions. It means that the person is just waiting for a reason to fight. They are quick to take offense and/or argue. This expression comes from a custom in the US in the early 19th century when someone would place a literal chip of wood on their shoulder and dare someone else to knock it off.
Can a chip fracture get worse?
Can avulsion fractures get worse? – Your avulsion fracture can get worse if you don’t follow your healthcare provider’s advice. Be very careful not to put weight on the fracture until your healthcare provider says it’s OK. You could reinjure yourself.
Can a bone chip heal on its own?
How bones heal – When you break a bone, your body goes into instant healing mode. It immediately sends blood to the fracture site to form a clot. This enables new bone cells to develop on the sides of the fracture line and fill in the breach as it moves toward the center of the break.
Is a chipped bone painful?
Broken bones can happen after an accident like a fall, or by being hit by an object. The 3 most common signs of a broken bone (also known as a fracture) are:
However, it can sometimes be difficult to tell whether a bone is broken if it is not out of its normal position. If you’ve broken a bone:
you may hear or feel a snap or a grinding noise as the injury happensthere may be swelling, bruising or tenderness around the injured areayou may feel pain when you put weight on the injury, touch it, press it, or move itthe injured part may look deformed – in severe breaks, the broken bone may be poking through the skin
You may also feel faint, dizzy or sick as a result of the shock of breaking a bone. If the break is small or it’s just a crack, you may not feel much pain or even realise that you’ve broken a bone. Get medical help as soon as possible if you think you’ve broken a bone.
- If you think you may have broken your toe or finger, you can go to a minor injury unit or urgent care centre,
- Go to your nearest A&E for a broken arm or leg.
- Call 999 for an ambulance if the injury to the leg seems severe or you’re not able to get to A&E quickly.
- Always call 999 for very severe suspected breaks, such as a broken neck or back.
The broken bone must be properly aligned and held in place, often with a plaster cast, so it heals in the correct position. If you do not receive the correct treatment, you could develop a serious infection or a permanent deformity. You may also have long-term problems with your joints.
What kind of chip is on your shoulder?
A chip on your shoulder is a metaphor which means that you are habitually negative, combative or have a hostile attitude, usually because of a deep resentment or long-held grievance.
Is a chip on your shoulder being upset for something that happened in the past?
What Is the Origin of the Saying “A Chip on Your Shoulder”? – The term “to have a chip on your shoulder” means being upset about something that happened in the past. More specifically, it means to hold a grudge for a past event or treatment. “To have a chip on one’s shoulder” originates in the US.
“When two churlish boys were determined to fight, a chip would be placed on the shoulder of one, and the other demanded to knock it off at his peril.”
In 1952, the Vermont newspaper “The North Star” draws an analogy between the conduct of US abolitionists Theodore Parker and William Garrison and “the Irishman who went through town with a chip on his shoulder, anxious to have a fight, and shouting, ‘Arrah, will none of ye knock the chip off me shoulder!'” Even though it is used literally (i.e., there was literally a chip on the Irishman’s shoulder), this is among the first recorded uses of the term “a chip on his shoulder.” Of course, the term is used figuratively these days.
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